An e mail response to a woman about abuse in Islam

Living in England,talking about virtues of thrue islam doesnt impress me at all.I was a muslim and I havent converted to any other religion.I`m not advertising any belief or talking behalf of anybody(as muslims claim,like being paid by america,israel..BULLSHIT!).As a women Im simply saying I`ve had it.I dont want to suffer anymore by islam.Instead of preaching us about "what is islam or what is not".Go to the places where Islam rules and see what is islam has done there,what is suffering and preach those wrongdoers who doesnt know islam as much you do.I wish you good luck! And I like to send couple brunch of miswak to one of converted ladies who was preaching about women rights in islam.She can understand what is being beaten by miswak(she thinks man can beat wife with a tootbrush)


Answer:

peace be with you
Thank you for your e mail. I do agree with you on many points. I have travelled to Muslim lands, and I know what you mean. There are many people who have done lots of evil, and women have been marginalized, abused and destroyed. However I would like to say that Islam is not that. Islam does not abuse women. Stupid so called Muslim men abuse women. The prophet Muhammad said: THE BEST AMONGST YOU IS THE BEST TO HIS WIFE.
So those people who beat women are not the best.
People have distorted Islam, and just because a country is called a Muslim country does not mean that there are Muslim rulling it. Look at Libya, look at Saudi, look at Sudan, who rules those so called Muslim countries? Proper God fearing Muslims? No, but corrupt people.
If you study the history of Islam you will find that true Islam existed and insh Allah will come back. People are ignorant, people don't know Islam. In Pakistan (my wife is from there) the mullahs' without knowledge have taken over, very few people of knowledge left. THIS WAS A SIGN OF THE DAY OF JUDGEMENT PROPHESIZED. THE PROPHET SAID THAT TOWARDS THE END OF TIME, KNOWLEDGE WILL BE LIFTED FROM PEOPLE.
You see the treatment of Muslim women as the media shows you as a bad thing. I see it number one as a prophecy, and number two as a big media stunt. Talk to my wife, talk to other sisters not even from the west but from those bad countries in the east, and see if they are abused? I know many, how have God fearing husbands, who treat them like princesses.
As for the tooth brush issue, I dont' agree with that. An I will come very blunt here. I am not an apologetic. The example used by the prophet of the tooth brush was to show that a woman should not be abused or hit hard. So beating a woman with a toothbrush is just not possible. How can you? It's a joke. It was symbolic. However a GOD fearing man who controls his anger, who is sincere a good person, who finds his wife cheating, or gambling or drinking, or doing bad things, leaving her children wihthout provision, stripping in clubs, going with boy frinds out to the bar, drinking herself till she passes out, showing her body to everyone, and acting in porno movies, trying to puke everytime she eats because the stupid movies she is watching are telling her what is beauty and what is not, killing herself wiht drugs (this is what the west is doing to the female gender - while man love to sit back and enjoy the product) well a good God fearing husband should FIRST SEEK HELP, IN TERMS OF TALKING TO HER, ADVISING HER, BEING GENTLE, DOING GOOD TO HER, TRYING TO SOLVE IT OUT. (THERE IS NOT TIME LIMIT FOR THIS) SECOND STEP HE SHOULD CUT SEXUAL RELATIONS WITH HER. HE SHOULD NOT SLEEP WITH HER. (how many husbands can do that. Andn I'm not talking about one day. How many can do that. Yet they jump and beat their wives. They jump from sept 0 to step 3 and leave their wives with a black eye, with a broken head, with broken limbs. Allah will punish them and trow them in hell if they dont' stop.) AND IF TALKING NICE AND TRYING TO FIND A PEACEFUL SOLUTION DOES NOT WORK, AND STAYING AWAY FROM HER SEXUALLY DOES NOT WORK, SHE STILL DOES DRUGS, SHE STILL IS EVEIL, SHE STILL STRIPS, SHE LETS THE KIDS ALMOST DIE, SHE SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER MAN, SHE KEEPS TROWHIGN OUT THE FAMILY MONEY AT THE PUB, IN THE CASION, AT STRIP CLUBS, THEN THE TRIRD STEP IS THAT HE WITH FEAR OF GOD, NOT OUT OF ANGER, BUT OUT OF GOD'S ORDER, HE CAN HIT HER AND MAKE HER REALIZE THAT SUCH CRAP IS NOT TOLERATED, AND HE PUTS FEAR IN HER, WITH HOPE THAT SHE WILL WAKE UP AT LEAST IF NOT OUT OF LOVE FOR HIM AND FEAR OF GOD, AT LEAST OUT OF FEAR OF HIM. A parent loves his child but sometimes he slaps his or her but when words dont' sink in, and we all know that that slap kept us out of trouble many times.
ONE HUGE POINT HERE IS THAT HE THE HUSBAND IS NOT ALLOWED TO HIT THE FACE. THE PROPHET SAID THAT HITTING ANYONE IN THE FACE IS A SIN.
So there you have it. I say things as they are, I don't apologize and I don't like when people sugar coat things. O HIT ME WITH A TOOTHBRUSH. IT WILL NOT HURT ME. THAT'S GARBAGE.
But having the correct knowledge of what Islam is and what it allows and what it's not, is the difference between heaven and hell.
I pray that you look into the truth of Islam and not the stupid actions of some people who are astray maximized by stupid media, and hypocrites who call themselves Muslims.
I am a Muslim and I'm proud of it and I hope to die defending the truth of it, even against those who have messed YOU my sister up.
I pray for you and for the healing of your heart. I pray that Al Waddud (The Most Loving - one of Allahs names) will shower you with His love and mercy and heal your scars. I feel like crying when I get e mails like this, and I tell you I do get them quite often.
You take care
I hope to hear from you
peace